What Men & Women REALLY Want For Valentine’s Day

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What’s the first thing you think of when you hear the phrase, Valentine’s Day?

WOMEN: Chocolate!

MEN: Oh shit.

I know it sounds harsh. But I mince garlic and not words on my blog.

Many women have high expectations for this day, and men are largely indifferent. As we speak, there are mass amounts of confusion over what to do on the 14th. Men everywhere are scrambling around trying to place a last minute reservation, shop for the “perfect” gift, and are reading into various dropped hints from their beloveds.

I’m here to make sure men and women get what they want. Guys, all we want is romance. So many of you already know this. There are many definitions for it, but mine is the most accurate: just make us feel like the most amazing woman on earth. Ladies, the guys just want to be at the source of our happiness. And they’d like a “little” something too.

Now that you’re asking, “So what do I do?” I’ll show you.

Men, start here. It depends on where you are in your relationship. I’ve been with my husband for 11 years and I don’t expect him to get me anything because we really don’t do Valentine’s Day. I attribute it to years of restaurant work, which typically had me at home late and ready to sleep. And Craig knows this because I told him so. My husband didn’t get off easy in the romance department, he just celebrates us year round. He brings me flowers often. He cooks for me at least once a week. We cook with each other most of the week.  In January, he took me on an overnight trip to the place we got married. He massages my feet while watching his beloved hockey team. I have no desire to keep up with men chasing a ding dong with sticks, but he always wants to spend time with me and make me feel special no matter what he’s doing. From my side, I know how much he loves watching his won-the-Stanley-Cup-over-40-years-ago Toronto Maple Leafs. What a fabulous trade off.

If you’re just starting out in a relationship, be mindful of what you choose to gift. A grandiose gesture on a third date might imply something more than already exists. Doing nothing or very little might put you in the dog house. But if you are crazy about each other and want to go all out, do this: cook her a delicious and healthy meal at home. It doesn’t have to be perfect. And the thoughtfulness behind a home cooked meal will travel far my friend.

Now that you’ve factored in your relationship status, come up with an idea. Like a simple, personal gift or dinner. Now is where the women come in.

Ladies, do your best to help him out.  He really doesn’t care about this holiday, so make it easy for him. My grocery checker shared how he’s making his wife a custom pizza and buying a bottle of her favorite champagne. She gave him specific instructions to do this. If you want jewelry, just say so. If you want to go out, tell him immediately so he can get planning. If you want him to cook for you, don’t be suggestive. Just be straight about it and share your favorite things to eat. Be a good girlfriend/fiancé/wife and write them down.

Next, execute the plan. If you’re cooking at home, CLEAN UP. Nothing says I love you like a clean house. Start with the kitchen and then the bathroom. Men, I swear to fucking god, women love a clean toilet. Take a broom, and a bucket with hot soapy water and get busy. If you can afford it, call Merry Maids.

Second, do your shopping and prep work TODAY. I’ve made an entire list of choices with recipes to inspire you. You can even make a Valentine’s Day movie night. Open some wine, popcorn or my healthy artichoke spinach dip. My mulled wine recipe is perfect if you’re in the freezing cold.

Third, buy some red craft paper and make a homemade Valentine’s Day card, and put it on her pillow. Visual instructions are on this video. It will make her smile.

Buy candles. They make a room look gorgeous in any setting. If you think they’re too expensive, go to the $.99 Cent Store and buy them for $.99 cents.

Below I’ve got food suggestions for meat eaters, raw food folks, vegans, vegetarians. If you need a specific idea, email me at mona (at) cookthisgetlaid (dot) com.

Appetizers & Salads

Arugula Salad
Artichoke Spinach Dip (vegan)

Entrees for the Carnivore In Her

Roast Chicken
Chicken Pot Pie – gluten-free, homemade baby!
Shrimp Fra Diavolo

Eggs With Asparagus
Morning After Breakfast Sandwich


Butternut Squash Risotto
Mock “Salmon” Pate
Raw “Cheesecake” – healthy for breakfast, lunch or dinner
Dessert Grilled Cheese – not healthy, but worth it!

Dessert – my desserts are ALWAYS gluten-free

Lemon Yogurt Bread
Peanut Butter Cups
Apple Cobbler


Mulled Wine
Ginger Mint Tea


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About Mona

I'm a food writer and home cook that loves to talk about healthy food and romance.
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